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Justin Timberlake brought sexy back (although we’re pretty sure he never lost it) and just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you can’t bring it back too. Being a mom doesn’t make you lose your hotness factor and that’s exactly why we have a Hot Mom Spa Squad to honor moms that take pride in both motherhood and their own womanhood. Our hot (and single) mom Alicia Harper of Mommy Delicious, finds that putting herself out there in the dating world (in heels, of course) allows her to find her sexy and flaunt it.

By Alicia Harper

It can be pretty hard to bring the sexy on when you’re a mommy. Let’s face it: being covered in goo, poo, or other questionable substances is not that sexy. But I’ve found a way to gain and maintain my sexy.

Dating.

As a single mom, I thought that it was going to be one of the last things that I would want to do. After working long hours at the office, taking care of my son, meeting up with my girlfriends, and freelance writing in between, to say that I’m exhausted is an understatement. But… there’s always room for dating, right?

Dressing up in heels and skinny jeans makes me feel sexy. Flirting with cute guys makes me feel even more sexy. And setting up dates with said guys? Well that makes me feel like I’ve hit the hot mom jackpot! And I love it.

One of the first dates that I had was with a guy that I met online. He and I decided to meet up in NYC’s Meatpacking District and take a stroll through The High Line. My logic was that my date and I could talk a bit and get to know each other a bit… and I could scope out new cuties just in case the date turned out to be a total bust.

But it wasn’t.

I managed to get through the date with no fumbles. I think.

I was running 10 minutes late and when I walked up to the corner of 14th street and 10th avenue in NYC’s Meatpacking District, there he was. Smiling. He’s taller than he seemed in his profile pictures. 6’2″ to be exact. I should have worn heels, was the first thought I had to my barely 5’4″ self. He’s broader in the shoulders and slimmer in the waist than he seemed in his profile pictures. Hmmm… he’s cute, was the second thought that I had to my single self.

I smiled and nodded. He smiled and waved. Very smooth greeting. This could be good.

The weather was great — warm and sunny and perfect for a stroll through Manhattan. Our conversation was good — we spoke about our summer activities and vacations, our interests, our day job, Facebook (it’s totally taking over the world), and his family (not mine, with the exception of Aiden). He was a total gentleman the entire time and halfway through our conversation I figured he seemed… safe. He’s old…er than I am. Dude’s got 6 years on me. And based on his let-me-tell-you-all-the-important-details-about-myself constant shift in conversation, I figured he may be ready for an actual relationship. I’m not trying to go there just yet.

Still, I tried to keep it light. And fun. And easy-going.

Our date continued and we indulged in delicious ice cream (vanilla flavor for me, cappuccino flavor for him), then drinks (glass of Chardonnay for me and a beer for him). There was laughter. Check! There was smiling. Check! There was a little flirting. Check plus! And then there was the question… “So, what are you looking for in a relationship?” he asked. Ooh no… check minus.

Really?! On a first date?! Sheesh!

In my humble opinion, the people who ask this question on a first date are the people who do not want to waste their time on more dates with someone who is not looking for the same things as them. How do I get out of this one gracefully? And without fumbling?

“Wow, you’re just getting straight to the point, huh?” I say with a chuckle. “I was not at all expecting that question.”

“I just thought we should get these questions out of the way,” he says. This guy is not playing games. He seems to want to settle down. Sooner than later. Suddenly, he’s not looking so cute anymore.

“This is like a job interview with Chardonnay,” I quip. “Well…” I proceed to say that I am enjoying the dating process and getting to know different people. I add that once I find someone who is compatible with me and I see potential with them, I would consider dating them with a more serious purpose.

He totally ate it up.

A few days after our date, I got a call from him politely requesting if he can take me out again. So I guess I didn’t fumble after all. And I guess the theory is totally true — if a guy is interested in you, he’ll call. Period.

Alicia Harper, M.A., Ed.M. is a single mother, freelance writer, blogger, and recent graduate of Columbia University turned Mental Health Therapist. Her life is filled with all things pink, except for the one bit of blue – her rambunctious 4-year-old son. Together they make a great pair, and Alicia chronicles the trials and triumphs of being a young, single mother living in NYC at Mommy Delicious. Follow her on Twitter. Find her on Facebook.